In April, I came up with a list of hard lines as the experience of being newly single was interesting to say the least and the opportunities presented me with a comedy of errors. I was very fortunate to have someone take me on a first date that was special, fun and good; allowing me to recognize that will happen for me when I am ready.
Current list of hard lines….
If you are married, no
If you offer to buy me a drink while on a date, no
If you can get pulled over, no
If you have an STD, no
If you have a baby mommy, no
Oh and….I am not marrying you…
While I said that I would never go on a dating app, I was bored in May and signed up for one for a minute. Quickly, I realized that all the reasons that I did not want to date thru dating apps were far more than accurate. From the fact a guy that I saw kept popping up in my feed to the fact that a guy messaged me about having an STD, ummmm yah let’s just say that was not going to work for me. Uninstalled it.
When we split up, I said I would not date until next year. Clearly that did not happen, however this year I am really invested in getting comfortable with myself. I have never lived alone before. With the exception of housesitting solo for a few summers, I had roommates thru college. Then I met my former husband at 21 and moved in shortly thereafter. The first month alone in the house was weird, but now I quite like it.
Getting comfortable with being alone also made me realize that I needed to learn to flirt and read men better before going on any more first dates. In June and July, I felt like I had a sign on my head that said feed me and hug me based on how many times a guy offered to buy me or cook me dinner and how frequently they would dole out hugs.
I came up with a list of soft lines to guide me thru August, which will be the first anniversary that I will celebrate that will not be an anniversary of anything other than a former life.
This second list gave me a break in May, June and July enabling me to go out and have a great time while knowing I will absolutely go home alone. You may get my number, you can buy me a drink, but I am quite happy to go home alone and have my very own dance party of one.
Current list of soft lines…