Last week was the first anniversary post divorce. Rather than sit at home alone, I designed a day of perfection that included a fair amount of time with all my ladies.
When my Dad died, the first anniversary of his passing loomed ahead of me. The firsts after a loss tend to be harder and the first complete year without him felt like a big hole. I chose to celebrate him that year by toasting him with a mojito at the Ritz-Carlton Half Moon Bay. There is a beautiful little cove just north of the property where I would sit on the beach and watch the sunset. Once I had some of his ashes, I would bring him with me too.
Every year since including an epic retreat in honor of the 10th anniversary of his passing a few years ago. With this in mind, I decided that design your own anniversary was a better option that wallowing at home.
My girlfriends suggested a girl’s night out, which sounded like perfection. We set a time at Clever Koi for dinner and planned to go out after too. Working backwards from the evening plans, I filled my day with both adventure and giving back.
Since there was going to be a big gap in the middle of the day, I decided volunteering at my favorite spot would be perfect.
I started the day with a run in the morning followed by aerial yoga in my backyard. Then I headed to volunteer at the Joy Bus and made their lemonade for the first time – the irony of that was not lost on me – making lemonade out of lemons.
Someone at the Diner even gave me a $1 tip. 🙂
I made my famous chocolate chip cookies for the neighbor’s kids as it was the 1st day of school, which was made all the better in that I had to use a meat tenderizer to break up the rock hard brown sugar.
Then I headed to K1 to race a go kart and fulfill my need for speed.
I capped off the afternoon climbing with friends and celebrating BRBG’s 1st anniversary.
The evening with some of my favorite ladies was perfect. Most brought me a note or a gift. I arrived home just after midnight with a heart filled so full.
This year is all about giving myself permission to fall while finding balance and seeking limits.